Like preparing a meal, doing the laundry, ironing. She always tells me when I invite her for a cup of coffee. I cannot do lots of things. And thanks to my illness and thanks to mindfulness I don’t have to do lots of things! You know what? I am happy for that. A psychologist at the MS-center I am going to asked me to cooperate in events for MS-patients. She asked me if I am prepared to tell my story as an ‘expert’ in having MS as well as being a teacher is mindfulness. I said yes. And I was thinking about what mindfulness has given me. [Lees meer…]
I meditate every day. It is part of practising mindfulness. It helps me giving attention to myself, here and now.
Yesterday and this morning I had terrible experiences. I have secundary progressive MS and because of this I cannot concentrate very well anymore. Especially not on more than one thing at a time. I have three children, up growing. They have lots of fun together. And that’s my problem.
How to talk to one when the others do other things / make noise?
So, this is a good practice of mindfulness. I decided to do short breath meditation to cope what’s happening to me. And I decided to leave, for example, the television off when I am doing other things. E.g. having a friend for a visit. Happy enough we haver more t.v.’s. So the children can move.
Does it help you to know how a short breath meditation works?
It’s to be used everywhere, all the time because ‘ wherever you go, your breath goes too.’ (Jon Kabat-Zinn). You can use it to cope with stress. You can also use it to pause: ‘ Where am I, what am I doing?’
- Sit still and close your eyes or gaze at one place
- Bring your attention to the moment: what am I doing? What am I thinking?
- Bring your attention to your breath. Where do I feel it? What does my acting and thinking with the breathe in my body?
- Give attention to the moment now. Feel your breathe again, here and now.
- Go on with your life. Give attention to how you feel now.
This short meditation (it can take 3 minutes or less) helps me to be back again. It helps me to concentrate on one thing at a time, here and now.
My husband had an annoying meeting a few days ago. He came back home frustrated. All the participants of the meeting were ‘very’ busy. It was an evening meeting and some of the participants complained that they didn’t even have dinner before the meeting.
I heard about the frustrations of B. and I had to laugh.
You know why? [Lees meer…]
When I was in my twenties and thirties lots of my friends and other people around me waited. They waited to skip the awful job they had. They waited to marry or to have children. They waited until they would be happy.
And then I started to get depressed. I mourned about being the ongoing talent that wouldn’t get as successful as I belonged to be.
And now I’m in my forties. I have MS. It hurts. I withdraws me doing everything I want to do or should do. And I am HAPPY