Onze kinderen zijn in de leeftijd dat ze eindexamen hebben gedaan. In het zuiden wordt dan gefeest en geborreld. En het is extreem warm. Ik ben gelukkig in staat om naar de borrels en feestje te komen, wankel, o.k. Maar ik merk dat ik niet meer zogoed mee kan doen met gesprekken. Ik versta de […]
Yesterday and this morning I had terrible experiences. I have secundary progressive MS and because of this I cannot concentrate very well anymore. Especially not on more than one thing at a time. I have three children, up growing. They have lots of fun together. And that’s my problem.
How to talk to one when the others do other things / make noise?
So, this is a good practice of mindfulness. I decided to do short breath meditation to cope what’s happening to me. And I decided to leave, for example, the television off when I am doing other things. E.g. having a friend for a visit. Happy enough we haver more t.v.’s. So the children can move.
Does it help you to know how a short breath meditation works?
It’s to be used everywhere, all the time because ‘ wherever you go, your breath goes too.’ (Jon Kabat-Zinn). You can use it to cope with stress. You can also use it to pause: ‘ Where am I, what am I doing?’
- Sit still and close your eyes or gaze at one place
- Bring your attention to the moment: what am I doing? What am I thinking?
- Bring your attention to your breath. Where do I feel it? What does my acting and thinking with the breathe in my body?
- Give attention to the moment now. Feel your breathe again, here and now.
- Go on with your life. Give attention to how you feel now.
This short meditation (it can take 3 minutes or less) helps me to be back again. It helps me to concentrate on one thing at a time, here and now.
Op 21 december gaan wij met ons gezin op reis, vliegen. 21 December is ook de datum waarop volgens sommigen onder ons de wereld vergaat. Mijn lief merkt laconiek op: ‘Wij zitten dan in het vliegtuig, in de lucht, als de wereld vergaat, zijn we daar niet.’ Wie zal het zeggen? Je zou somber kunnen worden van zo’n doemscenario, met name in deze tijd van het jaar waarop de dagen korter en de nachten langer worden. Voor veel van ons is dit toch al de tijd om somber te worden of te zijn.
Stel, dat we tóch verder ‘moeten’? [Lees meer…]
I’ve just meditated. I’ve done the mountain meditation. It is very powerful.
A mountain has a profound basis
It has a top reaching the sky. It is very solid. And it already was like this for many years. Try to imagine it. It is beautiful, it is always the same, except for, for example, snow in winter, colors of the falling leafs in fall, sunnny summer and flowers in spring. The mountain stays the same. Sometimes it is covered with snow, surrounded by rain or storms. At daytime it is lyings in the sunlight, in the night it is surrounded by the moon. The mountain is always there, in all seasons all the time.
There are things equal between me and the mountain
Like the mountain, I have light and dark moments. I have good and bad times. I can imagine to be as solid as a mountain with my head reaching the top, the sky, like a mountain. The sky is as a huge pillow that protects me.
I used to climb. I loved to do it. Now, being ill, I can’t climb anymore, for years. But I think that also if you wouldn’t like climbing, imagining a mountain, even imagining being a mountain must be possible for you. I like imagining to be a mountain. It helps me to feel as solid as a mountain, for better and for worse. Try to do and enjoy it!
My husband had an annoying meeting a few days ago. He came back home frustrated. All the participants of the meeting were ‘very’ busy. It was an evening meeting and some of the participants complained that they didn’t even have dinner before the meeting.
I heard about the frustrations of B. and I had to laugh.